TEDx Talk – STD’s, Shame & Secrets. I shared my story deepest secret on stage.
Everyone reading this most likely has a secret or something they don’t share with others that holds some shame, guilt or stigma and is possibly something they keep bottled up for fear of rejection & judgement. The stats vary from 1 in 3 to 1 in 8 for most things…someone reading this will suffer from depression, suicidal thoughts, or have been a victim of child abuse or bullying, been raped, had a eating disorder or addiction–the list goes on and on. We all have a story & something we tend to keep secret. When it comes to sharing our secrets being vulnerable, shame and guilt, some of us are of the generation that were taught not to air our dirty laundry and believe that secrets should be kept locked away, numbed and buried deep.
NOW SOME OF YOU are probably thinking ‘that’s exactly what we should do,’ but the truth is that it is us who internalize it (the guilt and shame) that it is self imposed and inflicted. Years of keeping it in can make it manifest larger than life & often seem worse than it is in actuality.
Though you may feel your secret is hidden they don’t always stay buried, they can infect our lives and show up as numbing, addictions, unhealthy relationships, self loathing and anxiety. It is important to ‘LOVE yourself enough to do the work of healing.’ For me, the belief that I was not lovable manifested itself by the universe providing me with men who didn’t deserve me. At the end of my TEDx talk I closed with this statement ‘Your desire to heal has to be greater than your fear’.
Disclaimer: It’s not easy but it’s worth it.
The truth really will set you free.
For more on why and how I was able to share and heal from my secret, read my blog post here. I share what it takes to share your secret & offer advice from my own experience of turning my dirty ‘lil secret in to my pretty ‘lil secret.
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Frank Warren’s, ‘Half a Million Secrets’ TED Talk played on stage before I went up to share my talk and my biggest secret. “Secrets can take many forms — they can be shocking, or silly, or soulful.” Frank Warren, the founder of PostSecret.com, shares some of the half-million secrets that strangers have mailed him on postcards. Watch it here.
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